I finally found one that I think I’m going to be sticking with for a while. It’s called Miss Jessie’s Pillow Soft Curls. I get mine here. It’s a bit pricey but a little goes a long way so it lasts a long time. The name says it all, this styling lotion that borrows fabric care technology and marries it to haircare. It is perfect for achieving static-free, big, soft, curly hair that we all dream about. If you don’t want ramen noodle definition and instead want a larger, expanded, fluffy curl then this is the product is for you! It’s the first “fabric softener” type styling lotion that will leave your curls light & fluffy soft.
But why is curly hair so difficult? A large part of the problem people have with their curls is their requirement for a lot of moisture. Not all styling products help with this and some containing alcohol or sulfates actually dry out the hair even more.
Naturally curly hair is prone to dryness because of the structure of the hair. The natural oils produced by the scalp of those with curly hair are not able to travel all the way down the hair shaft because of the twists and turns of the curls. Other problems can also exacerbate this dry state of affairs. Listed below are some common causes and solutions.
Possible Causes of Dry Hair
- Shampooing toooften
- Use of shampoos with harsh sulfates
- Use of products with alcohol which can also be drying
- Not drinking enough water
- Sleeping on a cotton pillowcase or using a cotton scarf, which rob hair of moisture
- Not using water based hair moisturizers
- Not sealing moisture in with an oil or butter
- Excessive use of heavy products w/out proper cleansing (build-up)
- Chemical Damage such as relaxers or other chemical straighteners
- Color treated hair (notorious for dryness)
- Using too much direct heat (blow dryer, flat iron, curling iron, etc. on a consistent basis)
- Shower water too hot
- Too much chlorine (from swimming pools or tap water)
- Salt (from ocean water)
- Increase water in-take
- Use an oil that can penetrate the hair shaft like coconut oil or jojoba
- Don’t use shampoo! Almost all shampoos contain sulfates and other harsh drying chemicals that are detrimental to curls. Instead use a cleansing conditioner and use your fingers to massage your scalp to get your blood circulating and break up dirt and product buildup. If you must cleanse with something else then use a natural soap like the ones described here.
- Use a water based leave-in conditioner after your wash and conditioning routine, and seal it in with a butter or oil while damp or wet
- Instead of using a rough towel to dry your hair, try an old t-shirt. The material is softer which will reduce frizz and breakage. Gently wrap the end of your hair in the shirt and squeeze out the excess water.
- Use deep conditioners weekly. Some may need to apply indirect heat through a shower cap, steamer, hair therapy wrap, etc., while deep conditioning
- Evaluate if your water is hard or soft and if it needs to be treated.
- Protect your hair, when going swimming, with conditioner and a swim cap or use of a product specifically designed for sun/chlorine/salt, such as Ouidad Sun Shield. I always have a travel bottle of conditioner in my beach bag to act as a barrier between my hair and the chlorine or salt water!
- Avoid hear styling. If possible, allow hair to air dry most of the way then finish by diffusing your curls with a blow dryer on a low setting. If you must style it with a flat iron, curling iron, etc., always use a heat protectant when styling with heat.
- Sleep with a satin pillow case and/or satin scarf
- Be patient and gentle when handling your hair. Don’t touch your hair when it’s wet. Just don’t!!!
So ladies, (or gentleman for that matter) be gentle with your curls and embrace the hair God gave you, it’s beautiful!!!